Over the past eighteen years as a mother, I’ve learned a lot of things – but I am very passionate about a handful of them. A long time ago, I found myself in a situation I never planned on. I was a step mother at a really young age, and there were handfuls of emotions and problems attached to this scenario that I wasn’t sure how to process.
Court dates, disagreements, sadness, frustration, anger, visitation, child support… the list goes on and on. I would never claim that we were the only ones that felt this way, I’m positive it was felt on both sides of the line. It’s a pretty common challenge, and anyone that finds themselves in a place like this, must find a way to deal with it.
I remember standing in my laundry room one day, full of anger. I felt like I couldn’t control the situation I was in, and I wasn’t quite sure what to do about it. I remember snapping at my kids, when I normally wouldn’t have, and being more short with Jon. I hadn’t even linked the two together – and then it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I was mad because of someone else, and I was making my family and my mental sanity pay for it. I was actually letting the other person make my life miserable, without meaning too. And whether this other person wanted to feel that way continuously, or not, it wasn’t my decision. But the way I chose to deal with my anger – was.
I decided right then and there, that I would never let someone else ruin my life and transform me into something I wasn’t – and didn’t want to become. I was the only one that had total control over my happiness, and I refused to hand that over to another person. It’s been a long time since this time in my life, and I am grateful to have learned this lesson so young. I am a happy person, naturally – but even so, I have to fight to keep this a priority in my life. If I had to name one rule of being a happy person, this would be in my top 10!
If you are holding onto anger from something another person did – or is currently doing, let it go. Stand up for yourself, and focus on finding your happiness. You will be lighter, stronger and more at peace. Life is too short to live under a dark cloud of blame and bitterness. Have a great week!
Love,
Janae
Hello! I am Camille, a wife, mother of four, Disney obsessed, certified teacher, and reality optimist. Motherhood comes with its ups and downs, and I hope while you’re here you’ll find something that makes your #momlife easier!
